A recent donnybrook that managed to get all the way over onto a post at
The Other McCain had
Roxeanna de Luca pointing out how other people's poor choices end up having negative repercussions upon her life. And while the discussion itself was good, I found her
answer to commentor Matt to be golden:
"While I still cringe (a lot…) at some of those memories, there is also a deep sense of contentment and joy in having lived my life a certain way. That joy is there, even though I’m over 30 and single. (No, the TV shows, movies, books, and chastity speakers who tell you that you will be rewarded for your patience with a super-awesome husband are not telling the truth; you may get that “reward”, you may not, but there is a different type of reward that you simply can’t imagine at age 16 or 20 or even 25.)
Bringing this back to whence the conversation came: what irks me to no end is that we, as a culture, don’t even begin to show young people how to live that life."
Very true. Wouldn't you want someone with that kind of grounding to be a person of influence for your own girls? For me, no question about it.
Those poor choices made in the Sixties that threw away thousands of years of cultural conventions and that has to be reversed. Men and women have been screwed up and the only way to fix it is to start fresh with the children. The same way the other side did when they set the current path.
ReplyDeleteIf grammar school girls are being shamed into performing oral sex on boys by peer pressure or worse there is nothing to save. There will be no "good" men out there to be found. Females are only sex toys to such creatures. And sex will never have any higher meaning, value, or pleasure than masturbation.
Well, as to reversing the societal trend, it is possible. It has happened before, usually brought on as a response to the destruction that the immorality had wreaked on society. Here today I think it should be a goal that such ideas have an opportunity to be expressed. Rox is on the money as far as the harm such choices have in the long run on women, but she does not seem to appreciate the harm being able to live this life style has on men. They may have pleasure for a season, but there is no joy there, and the emptiness that results damages not only themselves, but those most important to them.
ReplyDeleteI haven't read anything that Roxy has written that I disagreed with.
ReplyDeleteI think women know intuitively that if her company is NOT enough in the early stages of dating, she is with the wrong man. And why would she introduce sex into that equation? The same applies to men. The invention/availabilty of birth control didn't alter the most fundamental of rules for male/female interaction. When the most precious of acts is reduced to intravaginal masturbation, we are all the poorer for it.
Very true. It used to be that most women had a sense of that from early on, and though men were not likely to realize the truth of that till many years had past, they still would eventually realize it. Today it would seem both young women and young men are short sighted into the consequences of their activities. The point I am making is that easy sex is not the fun-fest that it is often portrayed to be, and that is true not only for women, but for men as well.
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